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Kaduna-Abuja train attack: Shehu Sani reacts to bandits’ 7-day ultimatum to kill abducted passengers

Former lawmaker, Senator Shehu Sani, has called on the Federal Government of Nigeria to take the threat made by bandits who abducted the Abuja-Kaduna train passengers seriously.

Sani made the plea in a tweet via his Twitter handle on Tuesday.

He tweeted: “The threat made by the terrorists who abducted the Abuja-Kaduna train passengers that they will start “killing them in 7 days’ time” should be taken seriously.

“Similar threat was made and ignored two months ago with tragic consequences.”

It was earlier reported that terrorists who attacked and kidnapped the 28 March 2022 Abuja-Kaduna bound train passengers have threatened to, within seven days, start killing the passengers in captivity if their demands are not met.

They called the government to, as a matter of urgency, release their children allegedly kept in a Yola detention facility in Adamawa State.

Malam Tukur Mamu and Dan Iyan Fika, the spokesman of Sheikh Ahmad Gumi, were spoken to on the phone by the leaders of the terrorists.

The terrorists claimed that the Federal Government suspended the resumption of the train service because of their threats in the audio of the conversations between Malam Tukur Mamu and the leaders of the terrorists that executed the Abuja-Kaduna train attack.

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‘Over 40 farmers killed’ as insurgents invade Borno community

 

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Several residents in Borno have been reportedly killed after insurgents invaded farms in Rann, Kala-Balge LGA of the state.

 

The insurgents were said to have arrived the community on motorcycles and attacked the residents with guns and machetes.

 

According to Zagazola Makama, a counter-insurgency expert in the Lake Chad region, insurgents loyal to a Boko Haram faction were responsible for the attack.

 

A source in the community was reported to have said some of the farmers were tied up before they were killed.

 

The victims are also said to have been buried on Monday, while several persons are reported to still be missing.

 

Meanwhile, efforts to reach Sani Mohammed, Borno police spokesman, were not successful as he didn’t respond to calls or messages when contacted.

 

The attack comes days after insurgents invaded the Chibok community in Borno state.

 

On May 3, Kautukari, a community in Chibok LGA of Borno state, was attacked by suspected fighters of the Islamic State of West Africa Province (ISWAP).

 

A resident had disclosed  that the insurgents invaded the community around 6pm and started shooting randomly, resulting in the death of eight persons.

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Gunmen attack APC House of Reps aspirant in Kwara

Some gunmen, in the early hours of Tuesday, in Igosi, Oke-ero Local Government Area of Kwara State, attacked Mr. Kayode Bankole, the House of Representatives aspirant on the platform of the All Progressives Congress (APC).

Bankole had gone to visit the delegates at the Igosi-Imode Ward, to solicit their support for the forthcoming primaries of the APC when he was attacked on his way to his hometown in Ekan.

The News Agency of Nigeria (NAN) reports that Bankole, however, escaped by the whisker, having discovered that the vehicle in which the assailants were, was trailing him.

Bankole said he, along with his entourage, was able to manoeuvre his way to escape the onslaught.

The aspirant said he suspected it could be the handiwork of his political opponents because of his soaring popularity, adding that such politics belonged to the past.

He called on security agencies to redouble their efforts at securing lives, especially in this period of electioneering.

The aspirant said that he would not rest on his oars until victory was achieved in the coming primaries of the party for the House of Reps.

He called on political opponents to sheath their sword and allow a free contest of idea without bloodshed.

NAN reports that Bankole is seeking to represent Ekiti, Isin, Irepodun and Oke-Ero Federal Constituency of Kwara.

Efforts at getting the Public Relations Officer of the Kwara Police Command, SP Ajayi Okasanmi for reaction were abortive, as calls and text messages sent to him were unreturned.

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Hoodlums attack Osun governor’s campaign train, journalists injured

 

Suspected political thugs and hoodlums on Monday attacked the campaign train of the Osun State Governor, Adegboyega Oyetola.

 

The thugs also attacked the bus of the Correspondent Chapel of the Nigerian Union of Journalists (NUJ) ,which was in the convoy of the governor.

The attack of the Osun NUJ correspondent chapel bus took place at Arapajo area of Gbongan and the hoodlums which attacked the governor’s campaign train also blocked all passing vehicles and

 

The hoodlums eyewitnesses explained were armed with axes, pots, stones and sticks.

 

In the ensuing mayhem, about ten other vehicles were destroyed.

 

When the NUJ correspondent chapel bus was hit, some occupants of the bus sustained varying degrees of injuries.

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Mosques must hire the services of security personnel to enhance safety – Sheikh Shaibu

Spokesperson for the National Chief Imam, Sheikh Armiyawo Shaibu, has urged Mosque Management Committees across the country to, as a matter of urgency, start considering hiring security officers especially during large prayer gatherings.

This he says might help foil terrorist attacks at mosques and other large Muslim gatherings as the country readies itself for imminent terrorist attack due to the southward projection of extremist groups in the sub-region.

His comment follows a government threat alert warning of a potential terrorist threat in the country and has thus cautioned faith-based organisations to exercise extreme caution.

Speaking on JoyNews’ PM Express, Sheikh Shaibu also urged Mosque Management Committees to also seek the services of security analysts in order to plan strategies to counter the activities of radicalizers in their mosques and communities.

“In fact we’re also even urging mosque committees to consider the employment of a security analyst or a security consultant, because the terrorist activity is not a monolithic activity. So you’d want certain briefing from time to time in respect to the dynamics and the strategies that you’d need to do to differ so that as they come in,” he said.

He also called on mosques to discourage people from using the space as a resting place.

According to him, though mosques have largely served as resting places for traders who come to pray, due to the issue of security plaguing the country, it would be safer if the traders were to rather go home after using the mosque for their prayers.

“Our mosques for example sometimes are a resting place for many people we do not know. They come they’re tired, some of those who sell. Now we say no, don’t allow that. They come with their gadgets, they have their bags, containers, they come they remain in the mosques, we say no. this time be on the alert , check who is coming, let the person pray, he finishes he must get out,” he said.

He further advised Muslim preachers of different Islamic orientation to be measured in the messages they preach to the Muslim youths in order not to open them up to radicalization.

“We’re advising Muslim preachers depending on the Islamic orientation you belong to, to be careful the way you preach so you do not goad our young people into accepting that extremist views. Because when you do so then you open the door, that is when you welcome and create the soft grounds for them to enter.

“Because when they come they have soft grounds and safe haven because they have people who thoughts and mindset is like theirs. And so we’re saying that tone down the way you do your preaching,” he said.

Meanwhile he has also called for interfaith collaboration to combat the spread of violent extremism in the country.

According to him, violent extremism has no religious colour and is no respecter of faith, thus it would be beneficial for both Christians and Muslims to exchange information and collaborate to prevent acts of terrorism in the society.

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Dozens missing in Nigeria after militant attacks

More than 30 people are reported to be missing in the north-eastern Nigerian state of Borno after being attacked by suspected militants at the weekend.

Witnesses said the victims from the town of Rann were fired on by gunmen on motorbikes when they went into the bush to fetch firewood.

Several escaped with bullet wounds.

It’s feared that dozens of others have been abducted or killed.

It’s not clear who carried out the attack, but both Boko Haram and another militant group linked to the Islamic State have been waging an insurgency in the region.

Nigerian security forces have not yet commented on the raid.

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‘Why are we in panic mode?’ – James Agalga questions government’s preparedness for terrorist attack

Ranking Member on the Defense and Interior Committee of Parliament, James Agalga, has questioned the seemingly panic mode of the government regarding a potential threat of terrorism in the country.

According to him, all things being equal, there should be no need for government to panic as measures have already been put in place to either prevent or counter acts of violent extremism in the country.

He was speaking about the National Framework for Preventing and Countering Violent Extremism which runs a Counter Terrorism Centre supposed to serve as a fusion centre for risk analyses and coordination of intelligence reports with the agencies making the entire input etc.

He explained that if the Centre is functioning as it’s supposed to there should be no reason for the uncoordinated alert notification that has plagued the government after realizing potential; threat of attack.

“So why are we having an uncoordinated issue of alert notifications from the same outfit? The Deputy National Security Coordinator and the Ministry are supposed to be working under one umbrella and that is why that centre was established,” he said.

Speaking on JoyNews’ PM Express he further stated that “The fact that we’re beginning to witness how uncoordinated the alert notification is becoming right now suggests there’s a problem with implementation. And that for me is not too good because we’ve lived with this problem; Burkina Faso started having issues as far back as 2015.

“That shouldn’t put us in panic mode because we anticipated that once there was a southward drift after the collapse of the Libyan regime we saw what happened in Mali, Niger, Chad and the Burkina Faso so we had been preparing all along.

“So they’ll tell you they’re establishing FOBs in the northern parts of the country, it means that we have been preparing all along.”

He added that the issue with implementation of the coordinated approach should be addressed immediately in order for the government and its security apparatus, and the general public as a whole to be prepared for any imminent attack.

“Our strategy was supposed to be a coordinated response to the terror threat. So the point is why are we in panic mode? We shouldn’t be. And that is why I’m saying that the fact that we’re in panic mode now suggests that there is a problem with implementation …”

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Terrorists trying to take control of the entire West African sub-region – Mumuni Muqthar

The Executive Director of the West African Centre for Counter-Extremism (WACCE), Mutaru Mumuni Muqthar, says the end goal of terrorists in the sub-region is to gain total control of West Africa and introduce their own style of government.

According to him, this has largely been the reason for their southwards expansion from the Sahelian regions.

“Strategically, they’re moving beyond the Sahelian state seeking to take control of territory of the entire West African space’ and they’re looking for vulnerabilities,” he said.

He noted that the violence that led to the destabilization of the Libyan state gave impetus to terrorist groups in Mali to up their game and expand to other countries.

Speaking on JoyNews’ PM Express, he stated that several terrorist organisations have in the recent past made clear their intention to attack Ghana, thus justifying the government’s threat alert.

“And so the destabilization of Libya, allowed the terror rebels in Mali to expand in terms of their capabilities and Mali got disintegrated, the spread went further, you see in Chad, Niger and then the last three years pervasive violence in Burkina Faso.

“And we know in the last five, four years, extremists groups, the traditional ones we have today like the JNIM, the Islamic State in the Greater Sahara, al Mourabitoun and several of those groups have specifically mentioned Ghana as part of the groups of countries that they’re seeking to attack,” he said.

He further explained that their primary motivation is to take control of territory and establish their form of religious governance.

“Ghana is mentioned as part of the countries that they’re seeking to attack within West Africa because terrorists groups are looking for one, to take control of territory, to administer the form of governance they believe is pure and we’re looking at it from those driven by religious goals and religious ideals.

“They’re seeking to take charge of territories to govern, and they’re seeking to weaponise the grievances of local populations to engage in the violent activities that they’re engaged in,” he said.

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Government’s messaging on threat of terrorism rather confusing, lacks unity of approach – Prof. Aning

Security Expert, Professor Kwesi Aning, says government’s messaging concerning the threat of terrorism in the country has been rather confusing and communicates to potential terrorists that there is no unity of purpose approach.

According to him, “I’m talking about two alerts, one from the National Security Coordinator in which it starts by seeking to play on our emotions about the death of Professor Kofi Awoonor which is unethical and improper, and the second more professional alert coming from the National Security Ministry.”

Speaking on JoyNews’ PM Express, he noted that if indeed the threat to Ghana’s safety was that serious, it was reckless for the government to wait an entire week before releasing a telephone number via which suspicious behavior could be reported to National Security operatives.

“And it raises fundamental questions about this excessive inflation in the public discourse particularly from government side about the threats. What are the specifics in terms of providing simple, practical and hands-on information to ordinary citizens as to how to what to look out for, where to report to, and how to report and how to behave? You don’t wait one week if the threat is that eminent,” he stressed.

He added that simply assuming that the terrorists would attack faith-based organisations clearly demonstrates the country’s unpreparedness towards the threat,

He explained that the choice of targets by the terrorists in the sub-region is often driven by societal, community and religious relations in an attempt to create fear and panic.

“I think one presupposes that terrorists have a predetermined selection of targets. The fact that they targeted religious, faith-based organisations, I think for me it will be pretty damning for these guys to come attacking faith-based organisations. The choice of particular target is driven by societal relations, community relations and religious relations; seeking to create fear,” he said.

Meanwhile, Professor Aning debunked assertions that the main aim of the southward trajectory of the terrorist groups was to access Ghana’s mines and ports.

He indicated that if that was their chief purpose, they would have descended in Rambo style on Ghana’s maritime space rather than trudge their way slowly from Burkina Faso.

According to him, the terrorists may have already had access to Ghana’s mines so that can no longer be a purpose.

“Anybody who tells you that the drive down south is because they’re seeking to get access to our mines and also to the ports doesn’t know what the person is talking about. Getting access tro the ports will be through water born improvised explosive devices, he wouldn’t travel 900km to come to the port, no.

“If you look at the Maritime programme and the targeting by terrorists and extreme groups, relating to onshore facilities and equipment, they don’t travel 800km. They use fast speed boats, they use water borne improvised explosive devices, and I’ve just finished a major study where major international organizations find countries focusing on this.

“So I think though while the threat may be real, I think when we seek to get the public on our side, we should provide factual evidence based information,” he said.

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Kaduna airport reopens for flight operations – two months after attack

The Kaduna airport has resumed flight operations, two months after it was shut down over an attack by gunmen in March.

 

Faithful Hope-Ivbaze, acting general manager, corporate affairs, Federal Airports Authority of Nigeria (FAAN), confirmed on Monday.

 

“Flight operations to Kaduna airport have commenced today with Azman Air,” she said.

 

Gunmen attacked the runway of the airport, killing a security guard.

The gunmen were, however, repelled by security operatives.

 

Meanwhile, Azman Air announced the resumption of flights to the Kaduna airport, making it the first airline to resume operations on the route since the incident.

 

The management of the airline had said it would be halting flight operations into Kaduna “for a few days”, following the attack.

 

Giving an update in a tweet, the management of the airline said its flight touched down at the airport on Monday.

 

“Azman Air landed at Kaduna Airport today 23rd May, 2022 to the elation and cheers of passengers, stakeholders, and staff,” Azman Air tweeted.

 

“It was a defining moment for the aviation community as the airport is reopened after being closed for two months. It’s so exciting to be back!”

 

The attack on the airport had occurred on the same day a train on its way from Abuja to Kaduna was attacked by gunmen in Kateri-Rijana area of Kaduna state.

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Ghanaians are oblivious of dangers of terrorism – Dr. Vladimir Antwi-Danso

The Dean of Ghana Armed Forces Command and Staff College (GAFSC), Dr. Vladimir Antwi-Danso is advocating for government to intensify awareness creation on the dangers of terrorism in the country.

He contended that 90 percent of countries that have been able to detect and fight terrorist attacks have done so through awareness creation and artificial intelligence.

Speaking on Top Story, Monday, Dr. Vladimir Antwi-Danso urged the government to make Ghanaians aware of the modus operandi of terrorists.

“For me, the most important thing is to make the people aware of terrorism and our security. You go to Israel and a two-year-old knows what to do, what to report and what to look out for and that they will never pick toffee or pen or balloon from the ground…We are not very aware of anything at all…People are oblivious of the dangers of terrorism and insecurity around them and these are the things that we should be looking out for, that we should make the citizenry to be very much aware of their surroundings,” he said.

Although Dr. Vladimir Antwi-Danso commended the government for its efforts against terrorism so far, he noted that a lot more has to be done in that regard.

Ghanaians are oblivious of dangers of terrorism - Dr. Vladimir Antwi-Danso

The situation, he said is not just about deploying armed men to border towns.

“It is not the numbers [in terms of armed men] that fight terrorism. Our military, how many are they? Put all the security forces together and put them on the streets, it doesn’t change anything. You know the London thing you talked about, they augmented it through artificial intelligence.

“There are CCTV cameras on every building in London and that is healthy, that is more important and the people there are very much aware…so let’s add some more men but the artificial intelligence will do more for us and our awareness of knowing what is not correct and reporting ” he added.

Dr. Vladimir Antwi-Danso’s call comes on the back of the Deputy National Security Coordinator’s comment regarding about 346 terrorist attacks within the first quarter of the year.

Edward Kweku Asomani said out of the recorded attacks, 49 percent occurred in the West African Sub-region.

Mr. Asomani said the figures indicated that the sub-region has become a hotbed for terrorism and, therefore, the need to create awareness on security consciousness among the citizenry.

The Security Coordinator said this during a media engagement in Accra on measures being taken by Government to combat terrorism.

He said Ghanaians needed to be vigilant because the nature of the threats is unconventional – did not involve Armoured Personnel Carriers (APCs) or fighter jets.

The Ministry of National Security on Tuesday, May 24, 2022, would launch the “See Something, Say Something campaign,” to encourage Ghanaians to own their personal security and be aware and conscious of their environment to reduce the threat of an attack on the country.

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4 communication barriers that destroy even the best relationships

“We just need to learn how to communicate effectively.” That’s nearly how every initial conversation begins when clients contact me for help. Does that ring a bell with you?

Most are surprised when after discussing the broad areas in which we communicate, they actually are pretty good at it. Unless, of course, it comes to our close intimate relationships, then it seems as though we not only didn’t learn, but it’s impossible to learn.  

Here’s the good and the bad news. 

First the good news. You are more than capable and know more than you think you do. Next, the bad news. You are making a choice — either conscious or unconsciously — on using dysfunctional and bad communication habits.

Most of us, when the chips are down and we’re in the thick of a disagreement, respond in an unconscious way. Perhaps it’s what we learned growing up in our family system. Or perhaps we’ve been doing the same thing for so long and no one ever told us it was damaging.  

The alternative applies to those who believe they know better and are better than their partner and therefore can communicate however they bloody well please. After all…they know best.  

When you think of dysfunctional communication, where do your thoughts go? I believe most people think of volatility or defensiveness as being the most toxic, but there are more barriers to communication, such as avoidance, contempt, blaming, and the need to be right.

These might not seem as egregious as a blatant verbal smackdown but are certainly detrimental to one’s relational health. 

Think about where you might sit on the communication spectrum of healthy versus unhealthy. What are the areas you would like to improve? Maybe you lean towards blatant anger. Or perhaps you avoid conversations that are necessary to move through an issue.

You may need some guidance and tools to get you to more loving, understanding, and productive communications, but you CAN and SHOULD work on it.

4 Communication Barriers That Destroy Even The Best Relationships

1. You burst into anger.

Anger is an emotion, right? We all experience anger. But, it’s what we do with the anger that makes it a barrier to healthy communication.

When we’re trying to communicate, it’s typically to resolve an issue. Let me ask you. When was the last time someone yelled at you and you came away feeling loved, motivated, and wanting to change? You probably don’t.

Remember that your goal is to understand and then to be understood. Hopefully, with that, a change will come about. 

I don’t care that you never learned how not to yell or be intimidating. You learned well enough to get through other areas of your life and you can learn this too.  

2. You treat your partner with contempt.

According to John Gottman, “When we communicate in this state, we are truly mean.”

Treating others with disrespect and mocking them with sarcasm are forms of contempt. So are hostile humor, name-calling, mimicking, and/or body language such as eye-rolling and sneering.

In whatever form, contempt is poisonous to a relationship because it conveys disgust. It’s virtually impossible to resolve a problem when your partner is getting the message that you’re disgusted with them.

Contempt is fueled by long-simmering negative thoughts about the partner, in the form of an attack from a position of relative superiority. Inevitably, contempt leads to more conflict rather than to reconciliation.

3. You avoid your partner.

While avoidance is not listed as an emotion, it’s still fear-based and, therefore, is driven by emotion. Is the fear real or imagined? The answer is perhaps both.

The imagined fear of the outcome if you speak up or tackle something can be based on our family history. Perhaps you had a raging family, perhaps you witnessed your mother being verbally abused if she spoke up so you learned at an early age it’s not safe. 

Perhaps you don’t feel worthy or that it’s not your place. You do have feelings and you do have a right to have a voice. It’s not easy to exercise that muscle, but it is one that needs to be developed. If your fear is real because it’s not a safe place to speak your mind, please, seek help from a professional. 

4. You play the blame game.

This stance keeps us stuck. Yes, that’s right stuck — it prevents us from taking our own inventory and focuses the sole problem on someone else. You say things like, “We wouldn’t be arguing if you didn’t _________ (fill in the blank).”

For example, you’re constantly late, yet you tell your partner they are too demanding of your time. Instead, acknowledge it by saying, “You know, you’re right, I am always late. I think I need to reevaluate my schedule. I’m sorry I was late again.” Can you see how much softer and more meaningful it is?  

To improve your communication, here’s a challenge for you: First, identify where your edge(s) might be. If you can’t find one, I can tell you that’s the one you need to work on.

We all have something we bring to our relationships, so look a little deeper. Once you have it, commit to trying something different for one week. If you have the need to be right, step back and perhaps offer, You know, I’m not sure about that” or “You might be right.”

If you are an avoider, dip your toe in to ask for time to discuss something that’s on your mind. If you are quick to blow, take a breath. And then maybe another breath. Wait until the moment(s) pass before you respond in aggressive anger.  

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4 communication barriers that destroy even the best relationships

“We just need to learn how to communicate effectively.” That’s nearly how every initial conversation begins when clients contact me for help. Does that ring a bell with you?

Most are surprised when after discussing the broad areas in which we communicate, they actually are pretty good at it. Unless, of course, it comes to our close intimate relationships, then it seems as though we not only didn’t learn, but it’s impossible to learn.  

Here’s the good and the bad news. 

First the good news. You are more than capable and know more than you think you do. Next, the bad news. You are making a choice — either conscious or unconsciously — on using dysfunctional and bad communication habits.

Most of us, when the chips are down and we’re in the thick of a disagreement, respond in an unconscious way. Perhaps it’s what we learned growing up in our family system. Or perhaps we’ve been doing the same thing for so long and no one ever told us it was damaging.  

The alternative applies to those who believe they know better and are better than their partner and therefore can communicate however they bloody well please. After all…they know best.  

When you think of dysfunctional communication, where do your thoughts go? I believe most people think of volatility or defensiveness as being the most toxic, but there are more barriers to communication, such as avoidance, contempt, blaming, and the need to be right.

These might not seem as egregious as a blatant verbal smackdown but are certainly detrimental to one’s relational health. 

Think about where you might sit on the communication spectrum of healthy versus unhealthy. What are the areas you would like to improve? Maybe you lean towards blatant anger. Or perhaps you avoid conversations that are necessary to move through an issue.

You may need some guidance and tools to get you to more loving, understanding, and productive communications, but you CAN and SHOULD work on it.

4 Communication Barriers That Destroy Even The Best Relationships

1. You burst into anger.

Anger is an emotion, right? We all experience anger. But, it’s what we do with the anger that makes it a barrier to healthy communication.

When we’re trying to communicate, it’s typically to resolve an issue. Let me ask you. When was the last time someone yelled at you and you came away feeling loved, motivated, and wanting to change? You probably don’t.

Remember that your goal is to understand and then to be understood. Hopefully, with that, a change will come about. 

I don’t care that you never learned how not to yell or be intimidating. You learned well enough to get through other areas of your life and you can learn this too.  

2. You treat your partner with contempt.

According to John Gottman, “When we communicate in this state, we are truly mean.”

Treating others with disrespect and mocking them with sarcasm are forms of contempt. So are hostile humor, name-calling, mimicking, and/or body language such as eye-rolling and sneering.

In whatever form, contempt is poisonous to a relationship because it conveys disgust. It’s virtually impossible to resolve a problem when your partner is getting the message that you’re disgusted with them.

Contempt is fueled by long-simmering negative thoughts about the partner, in the form of an attack from a position of relative superiority. Inevitably, contempt leads to more conflict rather than to reconciliation.

3. You avoid your partner.

While avoidance is not listed as an emotion, it’s still fear-based and, therefore, is driven by emotion. Is the fear real or imagined? The answer is perhaps both.

The imagined fear of the outcome if you speak up or tackle something can be based on our family history. Perhaps you had a raging family, perhaps you witnessed your mother being verbally abused if she spoke up so you learned at an early age it’s not safe. 

Perhaps you don’t feel worthy or that it’s not your place. You do have feelings and you do have a right to have a voice. It’s not easy to exercise that muscle, but it is one that needs to be developed. If your fear is real because it’s not a safe place to speak your mind, please, seek help from a professional. 

4. You play the blame game.

This stance keeps us stuck. Yes, that’s right stuck — it prevents us from taking our own inventory and focuses the sole problem on someone else. You say things like, “We wouldn’t be arguing if you didn’t _________ (fill in the blank).”

For example, you’re constantly late, yet you tell your partner they are too demanding of your time. Instead, acknowledge it by saying, “You know, you’re right, I am always late. I think I need to reevaluate my schedule. I’m sorry I was late again.” Can you see how much softer and more meaningful it is?  

To improve your communication, here’s a challenge for you: First, identify where your edge(s) might be. If you can’t find one, I can tell you that’s the one you need to work on.

We all have something we bring to our relationships, so look a little deeper. Once you have it, commit to trying something different for one week. If you have the need to be right, step back and perhaps offer, You know, I’m not sure about that” or “You might be right.”

If you are an avoider, dip your toe in to ask for time to discuss something that’s on your mind. If you are quick to blow, take a breath. And then maybe another breath. Wait until the moment(s) pass before you respond in aggressive anger.  

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Ango Abdullahi’s son wins Sabon Gari federal constituency in Kaduna

 

One of the kidnapped Kaduna-Abuja train victims and son of the Convener of the Northern Elders Forum (NEF), Ango Abdullahi, Mr. Sadiq Ango Abdullahi has won the primary for the Sabon Gari federal constituency

 

Sadiq, one of the victims of the train attack, who is still in captivity won the primaries.

 

During the PDP primary election conducted peacefully, he scored 28 votes to defeat other aspirants; Hadiza Muhammad, Salisu Abdulhamid and Misis Paulina.

 

Other winners include

 

1. Henry Marah, Jaba LG Constituency, State House of Assembly

 

2.Samuel Kambai, Zangon Kataf Constituency, State House of Assembly

 

3. Samaila Suleiman, House of Representatives, Kaduna North

 

4. Gideon Gwani, House of Representatives, Kaura

 

5. Turaki Khaliq Zik, Lere West, Constituency, State House of Assembly

 

6. Musa Shuaibu Indabo, House of Representatives, Zaria Federal Constituency

 

7. Barrister Emmanuel Kantiok, Zonkwa Constituency, State House of Assembly

 

8. Ali Kalat, Jema’a Constituency, State House of Assembly

 

9. Madami Garba Madami, Chikun Constituency, House of Assembly

 

10. Mugu Yusufu, Kaura LG Constituency, State House of Assembly

 

11. Lawal M. Rabi, House of Representatives, Lere Federal Constituency

 

12. Hussaini Jankwai, Lere East, Constituency, State House of Assembly

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EPL: You’re imbeciles – Simon Jordan slams Man City fans after title win

Former Crystal Palace owner, Simon Jordan, has slammed Manchester City fans who invaded the Etihad pitch on Sunday, describing them as imbeciles.

It was a tough battle for Manchester City on Sunday as they could only wait for Ilkay Gundogan to come off the bench and produce incredible comebacks on the final day of the season to secure the Premier League title for Pep Guardiola’s side.

From the first half until deep into the second half, City were 2-0 down and heading for second place until Gundogan came from the bench and saved the day.

Rodri levelled for City before Gundogan again completed a six-minute comeback that won the title for the Pep Guardiola side.

Liverpool finished the league season on 92 points, just one behind City, and the Germany international praised and commiserated with Jurgen Klopp’s side.

And immediately after the final whistle at Etihad fans ran onto the pitch to celebrate their victory, still, Jordan believes Manchester City should have done more to prevent a pitch invasion.

This was after two men were arrested for being involved in the attack on Aston Villa’s goalkeeper after the Premier League title triumph.

“The Man City fans are imbeciles for going on the pitch!” Jordan told talkSPORT.

“City [should have said] they would not bring the Premier League trophy out.”

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EPL: You’re imbeciles – Simon Jordan slams Man City fans after title win

Former Crystal Palace owner, Simon Jordan, has slammed Manchester City fans who invaded the Etihad pitch on Sunday, describing them as imbeciles.

It was a tough battle for Manchester City on Sunday as they could only wait for Ilkay Gundogan to come off the bench and produce incredible comebacks on the final day of the season to secure the Premier League title for Pep Guardiola’s side.

From the first half until deep into the second half, City were 2-0 down and heading for second place until Gundogan came from the bench and saved the day.

Rodri levelled for City before Gundogan again completed a six-minute comeback that won the title for the Pep Guardiola side.

Liverpool finished the league season on 92 points, just one behind City, and the Germany international praised and commiserated with Jurgen Klopp’s side.

And immediately after the final whistle at Etihad fans ran onto the pitch to celebrate their victory, still, Jordan believes Manchester City should have done more to prevent a pitch invasion.

This was after two men were arrested for being involved in the attack on Aston Villa’s goalkeeper after the Premier League title triumph.

“The Man City fans are imbeciles for going on the pitch!” Jordan told talkSPORT.

“City [should have said] they would not bring the Premier League trophy out.”

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Deborah: CAN demands security for Kukah, others

In the face of the recent killing of Deborah Samuel, a student of College of Education, Sokoto for alleged blasphemy, the Christian Association of Nigeria, CAN, has called on government to beef up security around Rev. Fr. Mathew Hassan Kukah, Catholic Bishop of Sokoto and other Nigerians, to avoid further break down of law and order in the country.

The charge was given on Sunday in Kaduna, by Rev Chris Annge, Kaduna State Vice-Chairman of CAN.

He spoke on the sideline of peaceful protest organised by CAN, at Evangelical Church Winning All, ECWA, Sabon Tasha. Hundreds of Christians participated in the protest.

“When we learnt that a Catholic church was attacked in Sokoto, It’s very clear that that attack was on Bishop Matthew Kukah because he’s the one who’s like a voice to the voiceless in this country. He’s speaking truth to power every day. So that attack was directly or indirectly on him.

“We are calling on the Nigeria government to charge those in charge of carrying guns or agencies responsible for taking care of us, to be up and doing and protect the life of Kukah and every believer as well as every Nigerian from this menace. It’s unacceptable.”

Annge noted that Nigeria is a secular state with laws that guarantee freedom of association for all citizens and reiterated the need for religious tolerance. He emphasized the need for prayers.

“We are people of God and we are to thank God for what recently happened in Sokoto, Deborah Samuel, who was gruesomely killed by Islamic extremist on account of blasphemy.

“So we are here to first pray for the survival of those who are alive and also let the world know that it’s not the best way to go by killing because we are living in a country where there are rules as in the constitution. I think as patriotic Nigerians, we have what is guiding us that has to be respected,” he stated.

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Reality zone with Vicky Wireko: Do you see some silver lining in Covid-19?

A lady in a facemask shopping at Accra Central when the lockdown was lifted on April 20, 2020.

If it is a truism that every dark cloud has a silver lining, then Covid-19, despite its devastations, has definitely brought us not one, not two, not three but possibly many many silver linings to help mankind.  This includes the fast discovery of vaccines.

Certainly in the area of public health, we have some learning and definitely some habits that are going to be part of our lives for some time to come. That is an assertion by some experts.

At a talk organised by Zonta Club of Accra recently on the impact of Covid-19 on women, Dr Christine Boatemaa Mensah of the Health Link Hospital in Accra held her audience spellbound with a list of benefits that the pandemic has brought into one’s life. Here in this country alone, medical experts have acknowledged a few.

Speaking on the topic: “The impact of Covid-19, Role of women”, Dr Mensah enumerated the health benefit outcomes of the pandemic in our country.

It is gratifying to note that for almost two and a half years since the pandemic turned our world upside down and brought misery to many homes, cases of other forms of infectious diseases due to poor hygiene practices have dropped significantly. 

Personal hygiene

Though she did not support her claim with statistics, Dr Mensah said the high levels of alertness and the awareness created in good personal hygiene, coupled with regular handwashing with soap under running water, necessitated by Covid-19, have seen very few people reporting to hospital or health care centres with hygiene-related diseases.

She said that in our environment, diseases which were quite recurring in communities including cholera, diarrhoea and dysentery have all come down in the last two and a half years. She explained that this could only be assigned to the good hygiene practices that many people have now adopted on regular basis.

Food health

Quite apart from the improvement in personal hygiene, another good practice the pandemic has taught people is to concentrate on healthy and well-balanced foods. Thankfully, people have now come to know such super spices as ginger, garlic, and cloves, which are described as immune boosters and are regularly used in cooking.    

With Covid-19, people have become conscious of what they eat; it has influenced the daily selection of ingredients and menus by out of home caterers who have also turned to cook healthy meals in their trade.

The same goes for drinks.  Many people are now pushing for naturally produced fruit juices rather than fizzy or soft drinks as often referred to.

Asthma

The other good news coming out of Covid-19 is the lowering of asthma cases. With the use of masks in public places, including schools, the case of sufferers breathing in polluted air which triggers the attack has also minimised

Overall, the level of education related to Covid-19 has helped tremendously to improve one’s living standards and healthy practices. The use of disposable tissues and handkerchiefs when sneezing or coughing has now become common, whereas it was not so in times past. 

Spitting indiscriminately around and blowing noses in the open air is gradually reducing.

Covid-19 has been a curse in many homes in the last couple of years.  The devastation it brought at the onset left many families and friends who lost their dear ones, broken and shattered.

However, the hard-earned lessons it has left in many minds, homes, workplaces and schools and the positive lessons imprinted in many may live with them for years to come. 

Covid-19 is a curse, a never wished for thing. However, on the flip side, it definitely has its positive sides.  Lives have been dimmed by the atrocious nature of the pandemic but many more lives have also been made richer.

The question is how does one build on the positives for the better? Pandemics come and go but are we picking up and forging forward with those lemons thrown at us?

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The writer can be contacted via email at vickywirekoandoh@yahoo.com

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Intelligence reports reveal involvement of Ghanaians in terrorist attacks in Sahel region – Oppong Nkrumah

Information Minister, Kojo Oppong Nkrumah, says intelligence picked by the country’s national security apparatus reveals the active involvement of some Ghanaians in terrorist attacks in the Sahel region.

According to him, it has become necessary to step up education on security because of possible recruitment of Ghanaians by extremists for terrorist activities.

Addressing the media in Accra on Sunday, Mr Oppong Nkrumah said the National Security Ministry will be rolling out a series of advocacy campaigns to enlighten the public to be on high alert.

“As recently as the 11th of May, 2022 in Togo, about 10 military persons died as a result of one such terrorist attack. Increasingly, intelligence reports suggest that some Ghanaians have been involved in terrorist attacks in the Sahelian region.

“This signals that there has been the possible recruitment of Ghanaians by some of these terrorist groups in the West African sub-Region.

“The Ministry of National Security has authorised an increased level of awareness among the intelligence community and seeks to deepen engagement with the Ghanaian public, in line with contemporary security practices,” he said.

Meanwhile, the Deputy National Security Coordinator, Edward Asomani, has said the Ministry is on top of the situation and will do whatever it takes to ensure the nation’s security is not compromised.

When he took his turn at the Information Ministry’s Meet-the-Press series on Sunday, he said the country has robust security and intelligence architecture to deal with such matters.

Intelligence reports reveal involvement of Ghanaians in terrorist attacks in Sahel region – Oppong Nkrumah
Deputy National Security Coordinator, Edward Kweku Asomani

He stated that the security agencies could not function properly without the support and cooperation of Ghanaians.

With this, he charged all Ghanaians to be on the look for suspicious characters and report the same to the security agencies for onward action.

“We are a proud people with robust security and intelligence architecture, but it is not complete when Ghanaians are not on board with us.

“That is why we are here today to seek the support of all Ghanaians. We are not panicking, we are on top of the situation, but we need the help of everybody in our jurisdiction,” he said.