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‘I’m under hostage’ – Okorocha cries out as EFCC invades his house

 

An All Progressives Congress, APC, presidential aspirant, Rochas Okorocha has allegedly been held hostage.

 

Okorocha made the remark in reaction to the presence of operatives of the Economic and Financial Crimes Commission (EFCC) in his Abuja residence.

 

On Tuesday, EFCC operatives besieged the Imo West Senator’s residence in the Maitama area of Abuja.

 

Okorocha in reaction to their presence claimed the men of the anti-graft agency invaded his residence without a warrant of arrest.

 

Speaking with Channels Television, Okorocha said: “I am under hostage I would say, the EFCC is at my house both the back and the front.

 

“I would say, I have enquired if they have an arrest warrant nothing, and I am supposed to be getting ready for screening.

 

“I don’t know what is really happening, It is unfortunate that this is happening here.”

 

Okorocha vowed to hold a press conference on the matter, adding that EFCC banned journalists from gaining access into his house.

 

“I am trying to address a press conference, Of course, the EFCC cannot stop the press from coming into my premises. They are inside my compound but the press is coming inside my house to interview me, they can’t stop them, he insisted,” he said.

When asked if he would be submitting himself to the anti-graft agency, the presidential aspirant said, “I’ll be here until I know what it is, because this is something serious, I want to see an arrest warrant or a court order”, he added.

 

Operatives of the anti-graft agency stormed Okorocha’s residence on Tuesday, barricading it, and ensuring that none of the members of Okorocha’s family would be allowed to leave the compound until they produce the former governor.

 

Ongoing Battle With EFCC

The EFCC had filed a 17-count charge to the tune of N2.9 billion against Senator Okorocha. in late January.

 

Okorocha, in the charges filed at the Federal High Court in Abuja, was accused of conspiring with others, including a member of the All Progressives Congress (APC) and five companies to steal from the public coffers.

 

Others listed as respondents to the suit were Anyim Nyerere Chinenye, Naphtali International Limited, Perfect Finish Multi Projects Limited, Consolid Projects Consulting Limited, Pramif International Limited, and Legend World Concepts Limited.

 

The charges were filed about the same time Senator Okorocha was declaring his intention to run for the office of the president in 2023.

 

The accused persons were alleged to have stolen the said amount belonging to Imo State and local government areas in the state in contravention of the Money Laundering Act 2011.

 

The charges claimed that the stolen funds were diverted between October 2014 and February 2016 from the Imo State Government House’s account and Imo State Joint Local Government Project’s account.

 

Meanwhile, a Federal High Court in Port Harcourt, Rivers State would ask the EFCC to stop further action against Senator Okorocha until the determination of the case before it.

 

Senator Okorocha had through his lawyer, Ola Olanipekun (SAN) approached the Federal High Court presided over by Justice Stephen Pam to seek the enforcement of some orders, earlier made in his favour in a case between him and the anti-graft agency.

 

The court also prohibited the EFCC from investigating or carrying out any other action against the former governor, while asking the anti-graft agency to release his international passport and travel documents.

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IPOB distances ESN from beheading of Anambra lawmaker, reveals those responsible

 

The Indigenous People of Biafra, IPOB, on Tuesday, distanced its members from the beheading of a member of the Anambra State House of Assembly, Okechukwu Okoye.

 

IPOB said Okoye was beheaded by fifth columnists who are bent on destabilising its struggle in the southeast.

 

Spokesman of IPOB, Emma Powerful, described Okoye’s murder as an abomination which has nothing to do with the Eastern Security Network, ESN.

 

A statement by Powerful reads partly: “We the global family of the Indigenous People of Biafra (IPOB) under our great leader Mazi Nnamdi KANU strongly condemn the abominable beheading of Hon. Okechukwu Okoye who was abducted a few days ago in his area. We want to also state categorically that contrary to insinuations in some quarters, the Indigenous people of Biafra IPOB could not in any way have had anything to do with this abominable act. It is imperative to state here that enemies of Biafra freedom and traitors in our region are seriously pulling all stunts to derail the freedom of our leader and the freedom of our dear Nation Biafra.

 

“After thorough investigations by our intelligence team, we found out that the abominable beheading of Hon Okechukwu Okoye is the system of the fifth columnists who are bent to destabilise the efforts of the Indigenous People of Biafra IPOB. These barbarians have been well mobilised financially and otherwise by DSS, NIA and DMI to create anarchy in our land in an attempt to derail our march to freedom.

 

“They will commit these heinous crimes and their paymasters will use the Nigeria compromised media houses to accuse IPOB of being responsible for what we know nothing about. The question is why is IPOB being demonised unnecessarily? The simple answer is that we are fighting for the freedom of our people because we rejected their forceful take over of our land.

 

“The IPOB intelligence unit working round the clock discovered the gimmicks and antics of Nigeria government and its security agencies, especially the Army, DSS, Police, NIA and DMI intelligence. Those pointing accusing fingers at us are the same people sponsoring the disturbing insecurity in our land. BIAFRA LAND has been infiltrated by fulani terrorists wearing Nigerian security uniforms and operating under this guise as agents of death and destruction of Biafraland.

 

“IPOB is not in the business of kidnapping or car snatching and has never been and will never be and therefore we absolutely has nothing to do with the kidnap of Okechukwu Okoye. These kidnappers, kidnapped this man on the day the Executive Governor of Anambra State, Professor Charles Chukwuma Soludo visited our leader Mazi Nnamdi Kanu in the DSS custody and every member of IPOB was very happy because he was the only Governor in the whole of Biafraland who summoned the courage to visit our leader in Abuja since his extraordinary rendition from Kenya to Nigeria.

 

“IPOB/ESN cannot behead our brother and dropped notes bragging that we are behind the gruesome murder. The world should take note of the similarity between the beheading of this lawmaker and the way they gruesomely murdered the two army couple last month.

 

“Governor Chukwuma Soludo must prepare to meet these evil men humiliating and killing our people head on.”

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Unpaid allowances causing financial hardship – NSS personnel

It is difficult to make ends meet on a low salary when the prices of products and services are skyrocketing.

The situation gets worse when payment of allowance delays.

Unfortunately, this is the reality for some National Service Personnel (NSP), whose salaries are in 3 months’ arrears. The personnel say the delay is affecting their living standards as they struggle to survive.

Evans is an NSS person living on a monthly allowance of GH₵559. He revealed that he has not been paid for 3 months. According to him, the situation is worrying as he is unable to meet all his needs.

“We have to pay water and light bills. Plus what I will eat, at the same time looking at the increase of transportation. Moving from my residence to where I work, a day I spend close to 60 cedis. We are not paid on time. At the end of the day, they are not increasing the money. Looking at the current economic crisis we are in, we suffer a lot. They are owing us 3 months arrears, they just paid only one month,” he told JoyNews.

The situation is overbearing such that, he has to take a side job.

“I decided to do a part-time job since the money that we receive is like hand-to-mouth. I decided to venture into teaching so I can get extra money to add to the 559,” he narrated.

Another NSS person, Priscilla, is facing a similar challenge. Priscilla amidst the delayed payment of her allowance has joined a WhatsApp NSS platform to embark on a strike until their arrears are paid. Unlike Evans, she depends on her family for support.

“I’m on strike. We planned it as a group. I’m home watching TV and waiting for the government to pay us then we see what happens. When I call my mother, she would say I’m lying and that I’ve been paid. I tell her I’ve not been paid but she doesn’t believe me. But sometimes she does help.”

Pricilla wants her salary paid on time although she said it is not enough to cater for her expenses.

“At least if they were to pay on time, it would help in one way or the other. But they would wait. I’ve not received my salary in 4 months now which is affecting me. It’s not that much but it would still help.”

When she will return to work is unknown. However, Evans and Pricilla, share a common demand; they want their salaries paid on time and increased to keep up with the escalating living costs. Also, some National Service personnel are expected to demonstrate in the upcoming weeks over their delayed payment of the allowance.

‘They signed up for national service, not national suffering’ – Ablakwa demands payment of NSS allowances

The North Tongu Member of Parliament, Samuel Okudzeto Ablakwa on May 16, asked the government to release funds for the payment of National Service allowance arrears for the months of March and April.

He said the delay in the payment of the allowance “is most unfair and insensitive,” given the current harsh economic conditions.

Mr. Ablakwa argued that although the GH¢559 allowance is inadequate, an early disbursement would go a long way to mitigate the economic challenges and the skyrocketing prices of goods and services.

“I would have thought government would, in the face of prevailing harsh economic circumstances, be increasing the current measly allowances and not delaying payment once again.

“How does the government expect these vulnerable personnel, most of whom have been posted far away from home, to survive under the current cost of living crisis?” he queried.

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Unpaid allowances causing financial hardship – NSS personnel

It is difficult to make ends meet on a low salary when the prices of products and services are skyrocketing.

The situation gets worse when payment of allowance delays.

Unfortunately, this is the reality for some National Service Personnel (NSP), whose salaries are in 3 months’ arrears. The personnel say the delay is affecting their living standards as they struggle to survive.

Evans is an NSS person living on a monthly allowance of GH₵559. He revealed that he has not been paid for 3 months. According to him, the situation is worrying as he is unable to meet all his needs.

“We have to pay water and light bills. Plus what I will eat, at the same time looking at the increase of transportation. Moving from my residence to where I work, a day I spend close to 60 cedis. We are not paid on time. At the end of the day, they are not increasing the money. Looking at the current economic crisis we are in, we suffer a lot. They are owing us 3 months arrears, they just paid only one month,” he told JoyNews.

The situation is overbearing such that, he has to take a side job.

“I decided to do a part-time job since the money that we receive is like hand-to-mouth. I decided to venture into teaching so I can get extra money to add to the 559,” he narrated.

Another NSS person, Priscilla, is facing a similar challenge. Priscilla amidst the delayed payment of her allowance has joined a WhatsApp NSS platform to embark on a strike until their arrears are paid. Unlike Evans, she depends on her family for support.

“I’m on strike. We planned it as a group. I’m home watching TV and waiting for the government to pay us then we see what happens. When I call my mother, she would say I’m lying and that I’ve been paid. I tell her I’ve not been paid but she doesn’t believe me. But sometimes she does help.”

Pricilla wants her salary paid on time although she said it is not enough to cater for her expenses.

“At least if they were to pay on time, it would help in one way or the other. But they would wait. I’ve not received my salary in 4 months now which is affecting me. It’s not that much but it would still help.”

When she will return to work is unknown. However, Evans and Pricilla, share a common demand; they want their salaries paid on time and increased to keep up with the escalating living costs. Also, some National Service personnel are expected to demonstrate in the upcoming weeks over their delayed payment of the allowance.

The North Tongu Member of Parliament, Samuel Okudzeto Ablakwa on May 16, asked the government to release funds for the payment of National Service allowance arrears for the months of March and April.

He said the delay in the payment of the allowance “is most unfair and insensitive,” given the current harsh economic conditions.

Mr. Ablakwa argued that although the GH¢559 allowance is inadequate, an early disbursement would go a long way to mitigate the economic challenges and the skyrocketing prices of goods and services.

“I would have thought government would, in the face of prevailing harsh economic circumstances, be increasing the current measly allowances and not delaying payment once again.

“How does the government expect these vulnerable personnel, most of whom have been posted far away from home, to survive under the current cost of living crisis?” he queried.

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Unpaid allowances causing financial hardship – NSS personnel

It is difficult to make ends meet on a low salary when the prices of products and services are skyrocketing.

The situation gets worse when payment of allowance delays.

Unfortunately, this is the reality for some National Service Personnel (NSP), whose salaries are in 3 months’ arrears. The personnel say the delay is affecting their living standards as they struggle to survive.

Evans is an NSS person living on a monthly allowance of GH₵559. He revealed that he has not been paid for 3 months. According to him, the situation is worrying as he is unable to meet all his needs.

“We have to pay water and light bills. Plus what I will eat, at the same time looking at the increase of transportation. Moving from my residence to where I work, a day I spend close to 60 cedis. We are not paid on time. At the end of the day, they are not increasing the money. Looking at the current economic crisis we are in, we suffer a lot. They are owing us 3 months arrears, they just paid only one month,” he told JoyNews.

The situation is overbearing such that, he has to take a side job.

“I decided to do a part-time job since the money that we receive is like hand-to-mouth. I decided to venture into teaching so I can get extra money to add to the 559,” he narrated.

Another NSS person, Priscilla, is facing a similar challenge. Priscilla amidst the delayed payment of her allowance has joined a WhatsApp NSS platform to embark on a strike until their arrears are paid. Unlike Evans, she depends on her family for support.

“I’m on strike. We planned it as a group. I’m home watching TV and waiting for the government to pay us then we see what happens. When I call my mother, she would say I’m lying and that I’ve been paid. I tell her I’ve not been paid but she doesn’t believe me. But sometimes she does help.”

Pricilla wants her salary paid on time although she said it is not enough to cater for her expenses.

“At least if they were to pay on time, it would help in one way or the other. But they would wait. I’ve not received my salary in 4 months now which is affecting me. It’s not that much but it would still help.”

When she will return to work is unknown. However, Evans and Pricilla, share a common demand; they want their salaries paid on time and increased to keep up with the escalating living costs. Also, some National Service personnel are expected to demonstrate in the upcoming weeks over their delayed payment of the allowance.

The North Tongu Member of Parliament, Samuel Okudzeto Ablakwa on May 16, asked the government to release funds for the payment of National Service allowance arrears for the months of March and April.

He said the delay in the payment of the allowance “is most unfair and insensitive,” given the current harsh economic conditions.

Mr. Ablakwa argued that although the GH¢559 allowance is inadequate, an early disbursement would go a long way to mitigate the economic challenges and the skyrocketing prices of goods and services.

“I would have thought government would, in the face of prevailing harsh economic circumstances, be increasing the current measly allowances and not delaying payment once again.

“How does the government expect these vulnerable personnel, most of whom have been posted far away from home, to survive under the current cost of living crisis?” he queried.

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Unpaid allowances causing financial hardship – NSS personnel

It is difficult to make ends meet on a low salary when the prices of products and services are skyrocketing.

The situation gets worse when payment of allowance delays.

Unfortunately, this is the reality for some National Service Personnel (NSP), whose salaries are in 3 months’ arrears. The personnel say the delay is affecting their living standards as they struggle to survive.

Evans is an NSS person living on a monthly allowance of GH₵559. He revealed that he has not been paid for 3 months. According to him, the situation is worrying as he is unable to meet all his needs.

“We have to pay water and light bills. Plus what I will eat, at the same time looking at the increase of transportation. Moving from my residence to where I work, a day I spend close to 60 cedis. We are not paid on time. At the end of the day, they are not increasing the money. Looking at the current economic crisis we are in, we suffer a lot. They are owing us 3 months arrears, they just paid only one month,” he told JoyNews.

The situation is overbearing such that, he has to take a side job.

“I decided to do a part-time job since the money that we receive is like hand-to-mouth. I decided to venture into teaching so I can get extra money to add to the 559,” he narrated.

Another NSS person, Priscilla, is facing a similar challenge. Priscilla amidst the delayed payment of her allowance has joined a WhatsApp NSS platform to embark on a strike until their arrears are paid. Unlike Evans, she depends on her family for support.

“I’m on strike. We planned it as a group. I’m home watching TV and waiting for the government to pay us then we see what happens. When I call my mother, she would say I’m lying and that I’ve been paid. I tell her I’ve not been paid but she doesn’t believe me. But sometimes she does help.”

Pricilla wants her salary paid on time although she said it is not enough to cater for her expenses.

“At least if they were to pay on time, it would help in one way or the other. But they would wait. I’ve not received my salary in 4 months now which is affecting me. It’s not that much but it would still help.”

When she will return to work is unknown. However, Evans and Pricilla, share a common demand; they want their salaries paid on time and increased to keep up with the escalating living costs. Also, some National Service personnel are expected to demonstrate in the upcoming weeks over their delayed payment of the allowance.

The North Tongu Member of Parliament, Samuel Okudzeto Ablakwa on May 16, asked the government to release funds for the payment of National Service allowance arrears for the months of March and April.

He said the delay in the payment of the allowance “is most unfair and insensitive,” given the current harsh economic conditions.

Mr. Ablakwa argued that although the GH¢559 allowance is inadequate, an early disbursement would go a long way to mitigate the economic challenges and the skyrocketing prices of goods and services.

“I would have thought government would, in the face of prevailing harsh economic circumstances, be increasing the current measly allowances and not delaying payment once again.

“How does the government expect these vulnerable personnel, most of whom have been posted far away from home, to survive under the current cost of living crisis?” he queried.

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Unpaid allowances causing financial hardship – NSS personnel

It is difficult to make ends meet on a low salary when the prices of products and services are skyrocketing.

The situation gets worse when payment of allowance delays.

Unfortunately, this is the reality for some National Service Personnel (NSP), whose salaries are in 3 months’ arrears. The personnel say the delay is affecting their living standards as they struggle to survive.

Evans is an NSS person living on a monthly allowance of GH₵559. He revealed that he has not been paid for 3 months. According to him, the situation is worrying as he is unable to meet all his needs.

“We have to pay water and light bills. Plus what I will eat, at the same time looking at the increase of transportation. Moving from my residence to where I work, a day I spend close to 60 cedis. We are not paid on time. At the end of the day, they are not increasing the money. Looking at the current economic crisis we are in, we suffer a lot. They are owing us 3 months arrears, they just paid only one month,” he told JoyNews.

The situation is overbearing such that, he has to take a side job.

“I decided to do a part-time job since the money that we receive is like hand-to-mouth. I decided to venture into teaching so I can get extra money to add to the 559,” he narrated.

Another NSS person, Priscilla, is facing a similar challenge. Priscilla amidst the delayed payment of her allowance has joined a WhatsApp NSS platform to embark on a strike until their arrears are paid. Unlike Evans, she depends on her family for support.

“I’m on strike. We planned it as a group. I’m home watching TV and waiting for the government to pay us then we see what happens. When I call my mother, she would say I’m lying and that I’ve been paid. I tell her I’ve not been paid but she doesn’t believe me. But sometimes she does help.”

Pricilla wants her salary paid on time although she said it is not enough to cater for her expenses.

“At least if they were to pay on time, it would help in one way or the other. But they would wait. I’ve not received my salary in 4 months now which is affecting me. It’s not that much but it would still help.”

When she will return to work is unknown. However, Evans and Pricilla, share a common demand; they want their salaries paid on time and increased to keep up with the escalating living costs. Also, some National Service personnel are expected to demonstrate in the upcoming weeks over their delayed payment of the allowance.

The North Tongu Member of Parliament, Samuel Okudzeto Ablakwa on May 16, asked the government to release funds for the payment of National Service allowance arrears for the months of March and April.

He said the delay in the payment of the allowance “is most unfair and insensitive,” given the current harsh economic conditions.

Mr. Ablakwa argued that although the GH¢559 allowance is inadequate, an early disbursement would go a long way to mitigate the economic challenges and the skyrocketing prices of goods and services.

“I would have thought government would, in the face of prevailing harsh economic circumstances, be increasing the current measly allowances and not delaying payment once again.

“How does the government expect these vulnerable personnel, most of whom have been posted far away from home, to survive under the current cost of living crisis?” he queried.

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Unpaid allowances causing financial hardship – NSS personnel

It is difficult to make ends meet on a low salary when the prices of products and services are skyrocketing.

The situation gets worse when payment of allowance delays.

Unfortunately, this is the reality for some National Service Personnel (NSP), whose salaries are in 3 months’ arrears. The personnel say the delay is affecting their living standards as they struggle to survive.

Evans is an NSS person living on a monthly allowance of GH₵559. He revealed that he has not been paid for 3 months. According to him, the situation is worrying as he is unable to meet all his needs.

“We have to pay water and light bills. Plus what I will eat, at the same time looking at the increase of transportation. Moving from my residence to where I work, a day I spend close to 60 cedis. We are not paid on time. At the end of the day, they are not increasing the money. Looking at the current economic crisis we are in, we suffer a lot. They are owing us 3 months arrears, they just paid only one month,” he told JoyNews.

The situation is overbearing such that, he has to take a side job.

“I decided to do a part-time job since the money that we receive is like hand-to-mouth. I decided to venture into teaching so I can get extra money to add to the 559,” he narrated.

Another NSS person, Priscilla, is facing a similar challenge. Priscilla amidst the delayed payment of her allowance has joined a WhatsApp NSS platform to embark on a strike until their arrears are paid. Unlike Evans, she depends on her family for support.

“I’m on strike. We planned it as a group. I’m home watching TV and waiting for the government to pay us then we see what happens. When I call my mother, she would say I’m lying and that I’ve been paid. I tell her I’ve not been paid but she doesn’t believe me. But sometimes she does help.”

Pricilla wants her salary paid on time although she said it is not enough to cater for her expenses.

“At least if they were to pay on time, it would help in one way or the other. But they would wait. I’ve not received my salary in 4 months now which is affecting me. It’s not that much but it would still help.”

When she will return to work is unknown. However, Evans and Pricilla, share a common demand; they want their salaries paid on time and increased to keep up with the escalating living costs. Also, some National Service personnel are expected to demonstrate in the upcoming weeks over their delayed payment of the allowance.

The North Tongu Member of Parliament, Samuel Okudzeto Ablakwa on May 16, asked the government to release funds for the payment of National Service allowance arrears for the months of March and April.

He said the delay in the payment of the allowance “is most unfair and insensitive,” given the current harsh economic conditions.

Mr. Ablakwa argued that although the GH¢559 allowance is inadequate, an early disbursement would go a long way to mitigate the economic challenges and the skyrocketing prices of goods and services.

“I would have thought government would, in the face of prevailing harsh economic circumstances, be increasing the current measly allowances and not delaying payment once again.

“How does the government expect these vulnerable personnel, most of whom have been posted far away from home, to survive under the current cost of living crisis?” he queried.

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Civil Society Organisation kicks against declassification of Achimota Forest Reserve

A Civil Society Organisation, Mass Action Committee, has kicked against government’s decision to declassify the Achimota Forest Reserve.

According to the Organisation, the move is unacceptable and must not be allowed to materialize.

The Executive Secretary, Atik Mohammed in a signed document, described as disappointing, the issuance by the government of Executive Instruments 144 and 154 relative to the Achimota Forest Reserve.

“This singular action by government does not only offend our collective effort at environmental sustainability, but it undermines our commitment to major international instruments, protocols and agreements. One such instrument that leap readily to mind is, SDG 15.

“We are enjoined by this goal among others, to sustainably manage our forests, halt and reverse land degradation. In particular, we are expected to achieve the 0.0 target in permanent deforestation – permanent deforestation is described as “tree cover removal for urbanization, commodity production and certain types of small-scale agriculture”.

“Ghana’s performance on this indicator stood at 0.8 as of 2018 (Sachs et al 2021). This reflects how badly we are protecting our forest cover. With this state, it is expected that government’s actions toward the few urban forest reserves we have especially Accra’s, would be to achieve one end only-their protection. That is why we find the Executive Instruments obnoxious in the superlative.”

The Committee also believed that the Owoo Family do not deserve any parts of the Reserve.

According to them, the reserve is the common resource and cannot be sacrificed in part or in whole to satisfy any private claim especially when such claim is not grounded in law.

“All leases allegedly granted to that family must be revoked. We must guard and preserve the entire reserve for our own benefit and the benefit of future generations.

“Meanwhile, we reject the apparent notion loudly, albeit subtly articulated by the Minister for Lands and Natural Resources that, because they find no evidence of any compensation payment to the Owoo family for the 1927 acquisition, grant of the so-called leases and the subsequent Executive Instruments have a fair grounding.”

This follows the wide circulation of an eight-page document on social media, which purported to mean that the classification of the Achimota Forest Reserve has been lifted to pave the way for a possible redevelopment for other purposes.

The Instrument gazetted on behalf of President Akufo-Addo by the Lands Minister, Samuel Abdulai Jinapor, stipulated that effective May 1, 2022, the land on which the Forest is located shall cease to be a forest reserve, pursuant to Section 19 of the Forest Act, 1927 (CAP. 157).

The cessation, per that document, was to be effective on May 1, 2022.

However, the Minister of Lands and Natural Resources, Samuel Abu Jinapor, has said the government is not selling the land.

According to him, plans are rather afoot to upgrade the Achimota Forest into a world-class asset.

Addressing the press on Tuesday, May 17, the sector Minister emphasised that widespread reports about the supposed sale of the Forest are false and baseless, as government has no such plans.

“The government intends to enrich the Achimota forest, revamp it and hopefully in the not too distant future, transform it into the likes of High Park of London and Central Park of New York, where Ghanaians can go and enjoy the beauty of nature and forest reserve as it happens in other parts of the world”.

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4 communication barriers that destroy even the best relationships

“We just need to learn how to communicate effectively.” That’s nearly how every initial conversation begins when clients contact me for help. Does that ring a bell with you?

Most are surprised when after discussing the broad areas in which we communicate, they actually are pretty good at it. Unless, of course, it comes to our close intimate relationships, then it seems as though we not only didn’t learn, but it’s impossible to learn.  

Here’s the good and the bad news. 

First the good news. You are more than capable and know more than you think you do. Next, the bad news. You are making a choice — either conscious or unconsciously — on using dysfunctional and bad communication habits.

Most of us, when the chips are down and we’re in the thick of a disagreement, respond in an unconscious way. Perhaps it’s what we learned growing up in our family system. Or perhaps we’ve been doing the same thing for so long and no one ever told us it was damaging.  

The alternative applies to those who believe they know better and are better than their partner and therefore can communicate however they bloody well please. After all…they know best.  

When you think of dysfunctional communication, where do your thoughts go? I believe most people think of volatility or defensiveness as being the most toxic, but there are more barriers to communication, such as avoidance, contempt, blaming, and the need to be right.

These might not seem as egregious as a blatant verbal smackdown but are certainly detrimental to one’s relational health. 

Think about where you might sit on the communication spectrum of healthy versus unhealthy. What are the areas you would like to improve? Maybe you lean towards blatant anger. Or perhaps you avoid conversations that are necessary to move through an issue.

You may need some guidance and tools to get you to more loving, understanding, and productive communications, but you CAN and SHOULD work on it.

4 Communication Barriers That Destroy Even The Best Relationships

1. You burst into anger.

Anger is an emotion, right? We all experience anger. But, it’s what we do with the anger that makes it a barrier to healthy communication.

When we’re trying to communicate, it’s typically to resolve an issue. Let me ask you. When was the last time someone yelled at you and you came away feeling loved, motivated, and wanting to change? You probably don’t.

Remember that your goal is to understand and then to be understood. Hopefully, with that, a change will come about. 

I don’t care that you never learned how not to yell or be intimidating. You learned well enough to get through other areas of your life and you can learn this too.  

2. You treat your partner with contempt.

According to John Gottman, “When we communicate in this state, we are truly mean.”

Treating others with disrespect and mocking them with sarcasm are forms of contempt. So are hostile humor, name-calling, mimicking, and/or body language such as eye-rolling and sneering.

In whatever form, contempt is poisonous to a relationship because it conveys disgust. It’s virtually impossible to resolve a problem when your partner is getting the message that you’re disgusted with them.

Contempt is fueled by long-simmering negative thoughts about the partner, in the form of an attack from a position of relative superiority. Inevitably, contempt leads to more conflict rather than to reconciliation.

3. You avoid your partner.

While avoidance is not listed as an emotion, it’s still fear-based and, therefore, is driven by emotion. Is the fear real or imagined? The answer is perhaps both.

The imagined fear of the outcome if you speak up or tackle something can be based on our family history. Perhaps you had a raging family, perhaps you witnessed your mother being verbally abused if she spoke up so you learned at an early age it’s not safe. 

Perhaps you don’t feel worthy or that it’s not your place. You do have feelings and you do have a right to have a voice. It’s not easy to exercise that muscle, but it is one that needs to be developed. If your fear is real because it’s not a safe place to speak your mind, please, seek help from a professional. 

4. You play the blame game.

This stance keeps us stuck. Yes, that’s right stuck — it prevents us from taking our own inventory and focuses the sole problem on someone else. You say things like, “We wouldn’t be arguing if you didn’t _________ (fill in the blank).”

For example, you’re constantly late, yet you tell your partner they are too demanding of your time. Instead, acknowledge it by saying, “You know, you’re right, I am always late. I think I need to reevaluate my schedule. I’m sorry I was late again.” Can you see how much softer and more meaningful it is?  

To improve your communication, here’s a challenge for you: First, identify where your edge(s) might be. If you can’t find one, I can tell you that’s the one you need to work on.

We all have something we bring to our relationships, so look a little deeper. Once you have it, commit to trying something different for one week. If you have the need to be right, step back and perhaps offer, You know, I’m not sure about that” or “You might be right.”

If you are an avoider, dip your toe in to ask for time to discuss something that’s on your mind. If you are quick to blow, take a breath. And then maybe another breath. Wait until the moment(s) pass before you respond in aggressive anger.  

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4 communication barriers that destroy even the best relationships

“We just need to learn how to communicate effectively.” That’s nearly how every initial conversation begins when clients contact me for help. Does that ring a bell with you?

Most are surprised when after discussing the broad areas in which we communicate, they actually are pretty good at it. Unless, of course, it comes to our close intimate relationships, then it seems as though we not only didn’t learn, but it’s impossible to learn.  

Here’s the good and the bad news. 

First the good news. You are more than capable and know more than you think you do. Next, the bad news. You are making a choice — either conscious or unconsciously — on using dysfunctional and bad communication habits.

Most of us, when the chips are down and we’re in the thick of a disagreement, respond in an unconscious way. Perhaps it’s what we learned growing up in our family system. Or perhaps we’ve been doing the same thing for so long and no one ever told us it was damaging.  

The alternative applies to those who believe they know better and are better than their partner and therefore can communicate however they bloody well please. After all…they know best.  

When you think of dysfunctional communication, where do your thoughts go? I believe most people think of volatility or defensiveness as being the most toxic, but there are more barriers to communication, such as avoidance, contempt, blaming, and the need to be right.

These might not seem as egregious as a blatant verbal smackdown but are certainly detrimental to one’s relational health. 

Think about where you might sit on the communication spectrum of healthy versus unhealthy. What are the areas you would like to improve? Maybe you lean towards blatant anger. Or perhaps you avoid conversations that are necessary to move through an issue.

You may need some guidance and tools to get you to more loving, understanding, and productive communications, but you CAN and SHOULD work on it.

4 Communication Barriers That Destroy Even The Best Relationships

1. You burst into anger.

Anger is an emotion, right? We all experience anger. But, it’s what we do with the anger that makes it a barrier to healthy communication.

When we’re trying to communicate, it’s typically to resolve an issue. Let me ask you. When was the last time someone yelled at you and you came away feeling loved, motivated, and wanting to change? You probably don’t.

Remember that your goal is to understand and then to be understood. Hopefully, with that, a change will come about. 

I don’t care that you never learned how not to yell or be intimidating. You learned well enough to get through other areas of your life and you can learn this too.  

2. You treat your partner with contempt.

According to John Gottman, “When we communicate in this state, we are truly mean.”

Treating others with disrespect and mocking them with sarcasm are forms of contempt. So are hostile humor, name-calling, mimicking, and/or body language such as eye-rolling and sneering.

In whatever form, contempt is poisonous to a relationship because it conveys disgust. It’s virtually impossible to resolve a problem when your partner is getting the message that you’re disgusted with them.

Contempt is fueled by long-simmering negative thoughts about the partner, in the form of an attack from a position of relative superiority. Inevitably, contempt leads to more conflict rather than to reconciliation.

3. You avoid your partner.

While avoidance is not listed as an emotion, it’s still fear-based and, therefore, is driven by emotion. Is the fear real or imagined? The answer is perhaps both.

The imagined fear of the outcome if you speak up or tackle something can be based on our family history. Perhaps you had a raging family, perhaps you witnessed your mother being verbally abused if she spoke up so you learned at an early age it’s not safe. 

Perhaps you don’t feel worthy or that it’s not your place. You do have feelings and you do have a right to have a voice. It’s not easy to exercise that muscle, but it is one that needs to be developed. If your fear is real because it’s not a safe place to speak your mind, please, seek help from a professional. 

4. You play the blame game.

This stance keeps us stuck. Yes, that’s right stuck — it prevents us from taking our own inventory and focuses the sole problem on someone else. You say things like, “We wouldn’t be arguing if you didn’t _________ (fill in the blank).”

For example, you’re constantly late, yet you tell your partner they are too demanding of your time. Instead, acknowledge it by saying, “You know, you’re right, I am always late. I think I need to reevaluate my schedule. I’m sorry I was late again.” Can you see how much softer and more meaningful it is?  

To improve your communication, here’s a challenge for you: First, identify where your edge(s) might be. If you can’t find one, I can tell you that’s the one you need to work on.

We all have something we bring to our relationships, so look a little deeper. Once you have it, commit to trying something different for one week. If you have the need to be right, step back and perhaps offer, You know, I’m not sure about that” or “You might be right.”

If you are an avoider, dip your toe in to ask for time to discuss something that’s on your mind. If you are quick to blow, take a breath. And then maybe another breath. Wait until the moment(s) pass before you respond in aggressive anger.  

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Psalm Adjeteyfio to be buried on June 4

The family of late Psalm Adjeteyfio, popularly called T.T, has announced the burial date for the veteran actor.

The final funeral rites for the late actor, including burial, is expected to take place on June 4.

Relaying the family’s information, presenter Barima Kaakyire Agyemen revealed the service will be held at the Forecourt of the Ghana International Trade Fair Centre La, Accra.

The event is expected to begin at 7:00am. 

Actor Psalm Adjeteyfio died in the morning of Friday, April 8, 2022. A son of the late veteran actor disclosed that his father was found unconscious in bed at his Ayikuma residence.

Ezra Adjeteyfio said several attempts to resuscitate him failed.

“We didn’t know he was dead; I was the one who went to his room to check on him only to find him dead on his bed,” he said.

Psalm Adjeteyfio to be buried on June 4

“I couldn’t believe it but that was the reality. My dad had been battling hypertension and diabetes, but it was diabetes that was really worrying him. I believe that might have been the cause of his death,” Ezra Adjeteyfio told Graphic Showbiz.

Psalm Adjeteyfio was a veteran Ghanaian actor best known for his role as the lead character in the Ghanaian TV series, Taxi Driver.

TT also featured in other films including Love, Lies and Murder, Papa Lasisi, American Boy, The Scent of Danger and The Chosen one.

Earlier, the actor had disclosed in various interviews that he has been diagnosed with a heart condition and kidney failure.

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Flood at Lands Commission at this time fishy – Social media users

Some social media users have cast doubt about the authenticity of the reported flooding of the headquarters of the Lands Commission.

The Ghana News Agency sources claimed that hundreds of documents, computers, and scanners in the basement of the edifice were destroyed after Saturday night’s downpour.

The affected documents include; indentures, land maps, and land documents.

Although the weekend’s rain caused a lot of mayhem in various parts of the Greater Accra Region, some netizens are finding it hard to believe that the premises of the Lands Commission could also be flooded.

The justification for their skepticism is that over the past few weeks, these social media users have been accusing some government officials of attempting to illegally acquire lands at the Achimota Forest Reserve.

Even before the dust settled, another jaw-dropping discovery was unearthed in the will of the former Chief Executive of the Forestry Commission, the late Kwadwo Owusu Afriyie.

In the 12-page document, it emerged that the politician, popularly known as, Sir John, owned some parcels of land in the Forest Reserve which he has passed on to inheritors forever.

As netizens gradually assimilate this news and the story of the Lands Commission getting flooded popped up, it has become difficult for them to accept that it is just another disaster.

The users believe that the flooding is just part of the scheme to cover up the illegalities perpetrated by some politicians.

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Protection Act: FG may fly prosecution witness abroad for safety reasons

 

In an effort to protect Nigerians who provide information to security agencies during an investigation and prosecution of offences, the Federal Government has made a provision that allows Nigerians to be kept in foreign countries under witness protection.

 

Similarly, there is a provision that allows foreigners to be kept in Nigeria under witness protection.

 

This is according to the Witness Protection Act 2022, which President Muhammadu Buhari, had recently assented to and passed into law.

 

Under Section 17 of the Act titled ‘Agreements with international bodies, institutions, organisations or foreign countries’, it stated that the relevant security agency would require the approval of the Attorney General before making any arrangement with a foreign country or organisation.

 

The Act read in part, “The relevant agency may, with the approval of the Attorney-General, make an arrangement with a foreign state, international body, institution or organisation on any matter relating to cooperation between Nigeria and that State, international body, institution or organization relating to witness protection.

 

“The relevant agency may enter into an agreement, either in general or on specific terms and conditions with a competent authority in a foreign country in order to (a) place a protected person under a witness protection arrangement administered by that country; or (b) admit a protected person to witness protection arrangement under any law applicable to that country.”

 

The provisions of this Act are applicable to the investigation and prosecution of offences relating to terrorism, money laundering prevention and prohibition, and economic and financial crimes.

 

Other areas of offence include corrupt practices and other related offences, drugs and narcotics and their trafficking, trafficking in persons, criminal and penal code offences, and Customs and excise management.

 

It also covers any legislation dealing with proceeds of crimes, confiscation and forfeiture of assets, and such other offences as may be contained in enactments enacted by the National Assembly and designated by the Attorney-General by an order published in the Federal Gazette.

 

To qualify as a witness under this Act, a person is required to have information about the commission of an offence or wrongdoing, and has given, is giving, or agreed to give evidence on behalf of the state in the proceedings for the trial of the offence, or hearings or proceedings relating to the offence or wrongdoing before an authority which is declared by the Attorney-General by an order published in the Federal Gazette to be an authority to which this paragraph applies.

 

A witness can also be a person who has made a statement to the Inspector-General of Police or a member of the Nigeria Police Force, or a law enforcement officer, in relation to an offence in contravention of law in Nigeria.

 

It can also be a person required to give evidence in a prosecution or an inquiry held before a court or tribunal outside Nigeria for a number of stipulated purposes; or who has given, is giving or has agreed to give, the evidence before an investigating authority, a commission of inquiry or tribunal.

 

The family member or anyone in a relationship with a witness may require protection or other assistance under this Act.

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We’re investigating claims that late Sir John gifted portions of Achimota Forest to relatives – Lands Ministry

Minister for Lands and Natural Resources, Samuel A. Jinapor

The Lands Ministry says it is investigating claims that former Chief Executive Officer (CEO) of the Forestry Commission, Kwadwo Owusu Afriyie aka Sir John, gifted part of the Achimota Forest lands to his relatives.

“The Ministry takes a serious view of the allegations and has requested for all documents relating to the lands in question as part of an initial inquiry to ascertain the veracity of the claims,” it said in a statement.

A photograph of a portion of Mr Afriyie’s Will went viral on Sunday, May 22.

It revealed that three different lands said to be situated within the Achimota Forest have been distributed to some of the late CEO’s family members.

This sparked public criticism with some people alleging that the reason for government declassifying part of the Forest as a reserve was to make such allocations legal.

But the Lands Ministry has refuted such claims, saying “the issues that form the basis of the allegations predate the tenure of the current Minister, Samuel Abdulai Jinapor.”

“It is important that he is seized with the full facts to enable him to take appropriate actions, if, indeed, there is any merit in the claims.”

“The Ministry assures the general public and the good people of Ghana that it will ensure that the national interest is protected at all times, especially in matters pertaining to the Achimota Forest,” the statement added.

Declassification of Achimota Forest Reserve

An eight-paged Executive Instrument (E.I.) was widely circulated on social media, which purported to mean that the classification of the Achimota Forest Reserve has been lifted to pave the way for a possible redevelopment for other purposes.

The Instrument gazetted on behalf of President Akufo-Addo by the Lands Minister, Samuel Abdulai Jinapor, stipulated that effective May 1, 2022, the land on which the Forest is located shall cease to be a forest reserve, pursuant to Section 19 of the Forest Act, 1927 (CAP. 157).

The cessation, per that document, was to be effective on May 1, 2022.

However, the Minister of Lands and Natural Resources, Samuel Abu Jinapor, has said the government is not selling the land.

According to him, plans are rather afoot to upgrade the Achimota Forest into a world-class asset.

Addressing the press on Tuesday, May 17, the sector minister emphasised that widespread reports about the supposed sale of the Forest are false and baseless, as government has no such plans.

“The government intends to enrich the Achimota forest, revamp it and hopefully in the not too distant future, transform it into the likes of High Park of London and Central Park of New York, where Ghanaians can go and enjoy the beauty of nature and forest reserve as it happens in other parts of the world.”

Minority’s position

The Minority in Parliament has highlighted the environmental effects of the government’s decision to reclassify the Achimota Forest Reserve as a commercial or residential zone.

In a statement, the National Democratic Congress (NDC) lawmakers noted that the Achimota Forest is the only existing “greenbelt” in the country’s capital.

Thus, any decision forthwith should seek to enhance the present value of the Reserve.

“Any decision by the government to reclassify it as a commercial or residential zone, even if only a part of it, will not serve the ecological value effect but, on the contrary, jeopardise the essence of the forest as a reserved area and will open it up to further abuse and non-ecological use.

“It is our belief that if any part of the Achimota Forest is released to any original owner and committed to any use either than its present use, it will set in motion a catalytic action of demands for the return of whole or parts of the about 265 Forest reserves across the country to original landowners,” the Minority said.

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BREAKING: FG appoints Anamekwe Nwabuoku to oversee accountant-general’s office

 

The federal government has approved the appointment of Anamekwe Nwabuoku to oversee the office of the accountant-general of the federation (OAGF).

 

The appointment was announced in a statement issued on Sunday by Yunusa Abdullahi, spokesperson to Zainab Ahmed, the minister of finance.

 

Nwabuoku’s appointment comes amid a probe into allegations of N80 billion fraud linked to Ahmed Idris, accountant-general of the federation.

 

Idris was arrested by the Economic and Financial Crimes Commission (EFCC) on May 16 — the anti-graft agency said he had refused to honour invitations to answer questions on the fraud allegations.

 

The accountant-general general was subsequently suspended by the finance minister two days after his arrest.

 

According to the statement issued on Sunday, Nwabuoku’s appointment was contained “in a letter dated 20th May, 2022 and signed by Aliyu Ahmed, Permanent Secretary (Finance), Federal Ministry of Finance, Budget and National Planning”.

 

The appointment will also be in effect “pending the outcome of the investigation”.

 

 “In this position, Mr. Anamekwe is expected to carry out his duty in strict compliance with extant rules and observe the highest sense of professionalism expected of an officer working at his level,” the statement reads.

 

“Mr. Anamekwe was born on 15th October, 1962 to the family of Mr. Robert O. Anamekwe in Ehime Mbano Local Government Area of Imo State.

He holds Higher National Diploma (HND) in Accountancy from the Institute of Management and Technology (IMT) Enugu, and Master of Science (M.Sc) in Financial Management from Commonwealth University, Belize.

 

“He started his civil service career with the Centre for Democratic Studies (CDS) and rose to the position of Principal Accountant between 1992 and 1995. He was deployed to the Office of the AGF, Abuja, from 1996 to 2001 as Assistant Chief Accountant. He served at the National Assembly, Office of the Senate President, from 2001 to 2003 as Special Assistant to the Senate President on Public Affairs and his duties included Advisory Services to the Senate President on Media and other issues.

 

“He assumed duty as Chief Accountant in the Ministry of Defence Headquarters, Abuja and served as Head of Accounts Administration.

Following his promotion to Assistant Director, Accounts, he was placed in charge of Funds in the Ministry from 2009 to 2012.

 

 “He became a Deputy Director (Accounts) in 2012 and was deployed to the Office of the Secretary to the Government of the Federation (SGF) as Supervisory Officer of Ecological Funds Accounts and other related matters.

 

“He was promoted to Director (Accounts) in 2017 and was posted to Office of the Head of the Civil Service of the Federation. He was the Director (Finance and Accounts), Ministry of Defence Headquarters, Abuja, from May 2019 to March, 2021.”

 

According to the statement, Nwabuoku is currently the director, inspectorate office of the accountant-general of the federation.

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BREAKING: FG appoints Anamekwe Nwabuoku to oversee accountant-general’s office

 

The federal government has approved the appointment of Anamekwe Nwabuoku to oversee the office of the accountant-general of the federation (OAGF).

 

The appointment was announced in a statement issued on Sunday by Yunusa Abdullahi, spokesperson to Zainab Ahmed, the minister of finance.

 

Nwabuoku’s appointment comes amid a probe into allegations of N80 billion fraud linked to Ahmed Idris, accountant-general of the federation.

 

Idris was arrested by the Economic and Financial Crimes Commission (EFCC) on May 16 — the anti-graft agency said he had refused to honour invitations to answer questions on the fraud allegations.

 

The accountant-general general was subsequently suspended by the finance minister two days after his arrest.

 

According to the statement issued on Sunday, Nwabuoku’s appointment was contained “in a letter dated 20th May, 2022 and signed by Aliyu Ahmed, Permanent Secretary (Finance), Federal Ministry of Finance, Budget and National Planning”.

 

The appointment will also be in effect “pending the outcome of the investigation”.

 

 “In this position, Mr. Anamekwe is expected to carry out his duty in strict compliance with extant rules and observe the highest sense of professionalism expected of an officer working at his level,” the statement reads.

 

“Mr. Anamekwe was born on 15th October, 1962 to the family of Mr. Robert O. Anamekwe in Ehime Mbano Local Government Area of Imo State.

He holds Higher National Diploma (HND) in Accountancy from the Institute of Management and Technology (IMT) Enugu, and Master of Science (M.Sc) in Financial Management from Commonwealth University, Belize.

 

“He started his civil service career with the Centre for Democratic Studies (CDS) and rose to the position of Principal Accountant between 1992 and 1995. He was deployed to the Office of the AGF, Abuja, from 1996 to 2001 as Assistant Chief Accountant. He served at the National Assembly, Office of the Senate President, from 2001 to 2003 as Special Assistant to the Senate President on Public Affairs and his duties included Advisory Services to the Senate President on Media and other issues.

 

“He assumed duty as Chief Accountant in the Ministry of Defence Headquarters, Abuja and served as Head of Accounts Administration.

Following his promotion to Assistant Director, Accounts, he was placed in charge of Funds in the Ministry from 2009 to 2012.

 

 “He became a Deputy Director (Accounts) in 2012 and was deployed to the Office of the Secretary to the Government of the Federation (SGF) as Supervisory Officer of Ecological Funds Accounts and other related matters.

 

“He was promoted to Director (Accounts) in 2017 and was posted to Office of the Head of the Civil Service of the Federation. He was the Director (Finance and Accounts), Ministry of Defence Headquarters, Abuja, from May 2019 to March, 2021.”

 

According to the statement, Nwabuoku is currently the director, inspectorate office of the accountant-general of the federation.

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BREAKING: FG appoints Anamekwe Nwabuoku to oversee accountant-general’s office

 

The federal government has approved the appointment of Anamekwe Nwabuoku to oversee the office of the accountant-general of the federation (OAGF).

 

The appointment was announced in a statement issued on Sunday by Yunusa Abdullahi, spokesperson to Zainab Ahmed, the minister of finance.

 

Nwabuoku’s appointment comes amid a probe into allegations of N80 billion fraud linked to Ahmed Idris, accountant-general of the federation.

 

Idris was arrested by the Economic and Financial Crimes Commission (EFCC) on May 16 — the anti-graft agency said he had refused to honour invitations to answer questions on the fraud allegations.

 

The accountant-general general was subsequently suspended by the finance minister two days after his arrest.

 

According to the statement issued on Sunday, Nwabuoku’s appointment was contained “in a letter dated 20th May, 2022 and signed by Aliyu Ahmed, Permanent Secretary (Finance), Federal Ministry of Finance, Budget and National Planning”.

 

The appointment will also be in effect “pending the outcome of the investigation”.

 

 “In this position, Mr. Anamekwe is expected to carry out his duty in strict compliance with extant rules and observe the highest sense of professionalism expected of an officer working at his level,” the statement reads.

 

“Mr. Anamekwe was born on 15th October, 1962 to the family of Mr. Robert O. Anamekwe in Ehime Mbano Local Government Area of Imo State.

He holds Higher National Diploma (HND) in Accountancy from the Institute of Management and Technology (IMT) Enugu, and Master of Science (M.Sc) in Financial Management from Commonwealth University, Belize.

 

“He started his civil service career with the Centre for Democratic Studies (CDS) and rose to the position of Principal Accountant between 1992 and 1995. He was deployed to the Office of the AGF, Abuja, from 1996 to 2001 as Assistant Chief Accountant. He served at the National Assembly, Office of the Senate President, from 2001 to 2003 as Special Assistant to the Senate President on Public Affairs and his duties included Advisory Services to the Senate President on Media and other issues.

 

“He assumed duty as Chief Accountant in the Ministry of Defence Headquarters, Abuja and served as Head of Accounts Administration.

Following his promotion to Assistant Director, Accounts, he was placed in charge of Funds in the Ministry from 2009 to 2012.

 

 “He became a Deputy Director (Accounts) in 2012 and was deployed to the Office of the Secretary to the Government of the Federation (SGF) as Supervisory Officer of Ecological Funds Accounts and other related matters.

 

“He was promoted to Director (Accounts) in 2017 and was posted to Office of the Head of the Civil Service of the Federation. He was the Director (Finance and Accounts), Ministry of Defence Headquarters, Abuja, from May 2019 to March, 2021.”

 

According to the statement, Nwabuoku is currently the director, inspectorate office of the accountant-general of the federation.

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Kwabena Afrifa Jnr: Colorblind

Iremember arguing with my brother over what’s better, cooking your own food or ordering in? He was for the latter and will mostly support his position with the fact that; it is simply more convenient and in his opinion, even cheaper because it saves time (which is money).

The idea of having to do dishes after the laborious act of chopping and stirring ingredients was just not worth it for him. He will rather order in, eat from a take-out pack and dump it; because after all, the goal is to put food in the stomach.

In retrospect; I concur. I mean, at the time, I failed to see his point of view, because I am a typical “do it yourself” person.

I didn’t see why I should regularly spend money ordering food when I could just make time to cook for myself. Plus, I also think it is cheaper (because you can take advantage of quantity discounts).

Nonetheless, ceding to my brother did not happen in a vacuum; I had to put it in context ie the context of “sustainability”.

As two bachelors, my brother’s approach to life was simplistic. It is sustainable for an unmarried man to consider the opportunity cost of time spent on cooking as against buying food and spending time doing other profitable things.

The cogence of this approach however evaporates when/if a man transitions from bachelorhood to a family man. I suppose my assumptions at the time of the argument did not take into account our statuses as men because in that case, there would have been no cause for disagreement.

There are times when I feel like our leaders are running this country with the mindset of an unmarried man. They make decisions to satisfy their desires “today” and leave “tomorrow” to take care of itself (all other things being equal).

However, the truth is: “all other things” can only be equal in “economics” and perhaps, the “metaverse”. Once you step outside into reality, you have to accept facts. Running a country is similar to raising a family.

The welfare of all members of the family is paramount thus, the distribution of resources must be done in an equitable manner because just like a family, a nation is made up of people with different orientations, qualities and characters. How equitable is resource allocation in this country? Your guess is as good as mine…

Formal education is crucial. However, it shouldn’t be at the expense of the development of creative arts or sports and vice versa. I have seen schools that don’t have a recreational space for children to develop their talents.

The focus for them seems to be solely on maximizing profits thus every inch of space available is used to erect classrooms in order to maximize collection of fees. The children’s park, a public park in Accra is in a deplorable state (says a lot about the policy direction of our leaders re: development of recreation).

We must ensure that our educational system makes room for the development of all disciplines. Ghana needs to show a firm commitment to the development of creative arts and sports from the elementary level and break the cycle of only showing interest in creatives and athletes after they have struggled to make a name for themselves against all odds (ordering food to avoid the hassle of cooking, but is this a sustainable way to raise a family?).

For instance, managers of our national sports teams clearly prefer to rely on athletes who have established themselves through their private efforts than develop a system which nurtures talents in the country and creates a pool of athletes available for selection at any given time.

In recent times, this has created a situation where there is a lack of patriotism whenever our teams represent us (whereas it should ordinarily be a moment of utmost pride).

In other cases, some athletes have flat out declined to represent the country on personal grounds which in most cases turns out to be a “chip on the shoulder” from the lack of support from the country in the formative years of their careers.

Case in point: Mohamed Salisu. Similarly, we are quick to highlight the Ghanaian roots of a creative who manages to gain international acclaim but when it comes to supporting creatives locally, we have little to show.

Andre Benjamin, a writer I respect, captured this paradox beautifully in a song titled, “the real her”. He is paraphrased as follows:

Men that are married don’t want to go home but we look up to them. They however wish they were us; they want some new flame, but we on the other hand, lust for some trust. Consequently, both parties are colorblind cos the other side looks greener.

Our leaders fail to see the need to develop our talents locally but are more than willing to chase after them once they have launched successful careers abroad.

On the other hand, our talents strive to emigrate in a bid to realize their full potential but they soon realize, “home is where the heart is” so in most cases, they are still willing to hoist the flag of Ghana.

The grass is greener where you water it.

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‘God never said anywhere in the Bible our wives should take our surnames’ – Clergyman

A newly wed couple holds each other in the late afternoon…

A clergyman, Bishop Yaw Owusu-Ansah,  is advising men not to force their wives to take their surnames.

The Accra Regional Overseer of the Resurrection Power and Living Bread Ministries said the act isn’t biblical.

According to him, nowhere in the Bible did God ask women to bare their husband’s surname.

The renowned pastor said, he has combed through the entire bible and didn’t find it.

“I believe that from the days of Adam, and I have read through the whole Bible, there is nowhere that you will come across that Adam’s wife was Mrs. Adam neither Jacob’s wife was Mrs. Jacob neither Isaac, Joshua or Daniel.”

“So if we the Christians are practicing the same thing, then I believe that we have to apply everything from the beginning to the end. And you come to New Testament, I haven’t come across that Mathew’s wife was Mrs. Mathew or John’s wife was Mrs. John.”

Bishop Yaw Owusu-Ansah thus asked men to be focused on building a life with their wives, either than changing names.

He insisted that there is a reason God put everyone in a particular family, and no one should attempt to change it.

“So it is my view that if I marry you as my wife, I don’t need to impose my name on you because you come from a family and I believe that coming from a family, there is a reason why God put you and brought you out of that family.”

“So keeping that name doesn’t change anything if you are my wife. God told Abraham, I’ll make your name great. So God making my wife’s name great, my daughter’s name great and my sister’s name great, if you come and marry her, let her keep her name, and you also keep that name that you have and let us build a life together. Building lives together doesn’t change anything that because you didn’t put my name on you, you can’t be my wife.”

He told Winston Amoah and Kojo Yankson on Joy FM’s Super Morning Show on Friday, May 20.